16-year-old boy defends younger sister against uncle's unrelenting teasing, mom bans him from the family vacation: “This is about you being mean to your niece because her dad isn't home”

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Apr 4, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

When I was a 14-year-old girl, I was really into the band Placebo. They're a British alternative rock band that primarily perform songs about things that most 14-year-old girls have zero understanding of, but I was just in it for the vibes. Funnily enough, I came across them because of the mid-2000s Nickelodeon show Zooey101; a Placebo poster is featured in the main character's room in one episode. In restrospect, that was a really weird choice on set designer's part. I was so into the band at the time that I nicknamed certain foods after its members. I'm not sure exactly what the logic was, but pimento cheese sandwiches are forever known as Brian Molko sandwiches.

In our story today, a young teen girl's favorite musician is no other than Taylor Swift. This is pretty typical of her age, and she is certainly no stranger to haters. However, she never expected her biggest hater to be her own uncle. Thankfully, she has an older brother looking out for her. Scroll down for all the details. 

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    AITA for telling my brother in law to stop picking on my kids or he's not coming on vacation?

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    I have three kids, Rob (16m), Lisa (14f), Anne (9F). Lisa is autistic, and her special interest is Taylor Swift. Rob and Anne go along with it and indulge her. They're good kids who care and support each other and Rob and yes Anne get attention and support for their interests too.
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    My brother in law Hector's entire personality is trying to rile people. You know the whole "it's just a joke bro". Super childish but whatever "he's family." Except my husband is out of the country, so I guess. he thinks he gets to do whatever he wants.
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    A few weeks ago he started needling at Lisa by making fun of Taylor Swift using lots of childish name calling words, intentionally using the wrong word for fans and stuff. Just really immature kid stuff. Lisa knows that not everyone likes TS and
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    some people even hate her. One of her best friends hates her. She's not unable to hear different opinions. She has her own I'm sure she'd LOVE to share with you all if you had 4 hours to spare.
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    He would say "Well Swiffers did x y z" she would say "Uncle Hector it's Swifties" and he would say again to needle at her. Rob was in the room, I was not. Rob said to him "Why do you keep using the wrong word, she told you the right word?" it
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    Hector said he can say whatever he wants and to "cry about it." Rob said "It just seems like you're going out of your way to upset Lisa"
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    Rob asked her to finish what she was talking about and to ignore Hector. This is when I came into the room, and Hector waved at the kids and said "Roberta's getting real mad that someone's joking about mother (?)"
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    (I wasn't in the room so I didn't hear the comment about me and Rob said I wouldn't get it) Before I could say anything Rob said "Bro did you really just call me a girl's name? Are you 12?"
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    I put my hands up and said okay enough, Hector, stop. He said I'm raising soft kids who can't take a joke. I said he's being so effing r de and that he wouldn't be acting like this if my husband was home. I said that if he wants to still go with us to Colorado in the summer like we were planning, he has to stop NOW or he's not coming.
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    This set him off and he said I had no right to do that (yes I do) and that I'm being a controlling yak over Taylor Swift. I said no, f Taylor Swift, this is about you being mean to your niece because her dad isn't home.
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    He said f you and good luck next time we have a problem, we're on our own. He took his Costco chicken and left and I swear he must have immediately gone running to my MIL because she called me to ask for what really happened and
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    sighed a lot. I asked her if I was overreacting and she said she just hopes we can work it out because that trip was all he had to look forward to since he was laid off from work. I HATE causing drama in the family so am I the a hole and I'm out of line?
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  • Why did this grown man go crying to his mom to defend him? He's immature in more ways than one!

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    Perfect_Ring3489 Nta. You should be proud of your son for standing up for his sister. The bil does not deserve to go for being a nasty piece of work
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    tamponsaver OP Rob is a very good son and has always been protective of his sisters and I'm very grateful for that because I didn't have the same relationship with my brother sadly.
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    Tight_Jaguar_3881 Hector is an a for the way he treats your children. I would not want to go on a vacation with him. Why pay money to be with a ride a hle who belittles your children.? I hope your husband backs you up. Your mother-in-law favors Hector over your children. They should go on a vacation together. Stand up for them.
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    - PomegranateReal3620.8h NTA Hector is what we call Schrodinger's AH. He says something awful then waits to gauge the reaction to decide if it's a joke or not. He's made his whole personality. What adds spice to the j is how he can dish it out, but being a j can't take it, and that a grown a*s man had to go cry to his mommy because a child hurt his fee fees.
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  • Honestly, if this man insists on acting like an annoying child, he deserves to be treated like one! He's in time out until further notice.

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    owls_and_cardinals NTA! You protected your kids. Your son seems wise beyond his years and brave to stand up to a family member like that. This is a perfectly reasonable natural consequence for the uncle to face. He has to
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    be agreeable and kind to be invited on family vacations lol. That's not a huge stretch. I hope he can come around. I'm glad your MIL didn't like... completely take his side? But it sounds like she is a huge enabler.
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    There is a lot of irony in saying "I hope you can work it out because that trip was all he had to look forward to since being laid off from work." Um well? If he cared about the trip, maybe he should be
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    grateful and respectful to his family so as to not put it at risk. Maybe he's a grown man and shouldn't be coddled with vacations just so he has something to look forward to.
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    Make sure your husband is on board, you know BIL will go to him next and will attack your parenting and your logic and your teachings. You have your head on straight. Perhaps with your husband present, you can have an adult conversation with your BIL about
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    the role of jokes with your kids and that his jokes lead heavily with negativity, from making fun of topics to calling people the wrong names just to mess with them...like classic playground stuff, and if he wants a role in the family he needs to do better.
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    readthethings13579 For the layoff, I'm wondering what Hector's company's policy was. Some places take performance into account when determining who will be laid off, it seems possible that his constant antagonizing behavior may have played a role in him being selected.
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